I wanted to talk about expectations.
Expectation is a feeling. I might say it can closely define as such: sad, angry, happy, etc.
Expectation is a dual expression.
One. towards yourself.
Two. towards others.
One) I expect myself to score very well for the past semester because I have worked extremely hard!
Two) I expect you to give me a dem good result for I have work very hard for the past semester!
When both are fail to reach the expectation, there goes disappointment.
'I am very dissapointed with myself for not scoring'
'She dissapoints me for not giving me good grades'
Expectations are part of our social circle. They're everywhere. Any humans cant deny the fact that they owned this expectations.
Expectations lived in our soul. Sleep in our body and always there, playing with our minds and hearts.
The question is, are they good? or an evil reflection to our mind?
as myratayeb punya prinsip hidup,
'SEMUA BENDA DALAM DUNIA NI ADA BAIK BURUK!!!!'
(termasuk yg bernafas spt manusia)
so, the good thing about having expectations are:
- it somehow motivates me to reach a certain target or in other word, expectations!
and the bad thing about it:
- its a curse to relationships: friends, family, staff, boss, etc
'I EXPECT YOU TO WORK LIKE ROBOT BUT THIS IS WHAT YOU GAVE ME?!!!'
'I EXPECT YOU TO BE A GOOD FRIEND, BUT YOU'RE NOT~'
'I EXPECT MY DAUGHTER TO SIT AT HOME AND BE WITH HER FAMILY!'
so, yes. expectations give birth to war. However, it depends on how you take other people's expectations.
positive way: is to just stay calm and think about it. Is it true you're not being a good person by doing so? is it bad for not being what he/she expected? what will the world be like if you toptop their expectation? will it make the world a better place?
then try to change. Other words, develop urself as a human.
then just folow ur heart. Theres a moral of a certain fairy tale which I cant remember tells us not to satisfy everyone's needs (or expectations!), you gotta used that brain of urs yg Tuhan dah ciptakan sempurna to decide what is right or wrong.
YOU CANT SATISFY EVERYONE!
negative way: is not to give a tiny damn about it and just dance your own floor.
kita ni hidup bermasyarakat. When we acted this way, we are actually being IGNORANT!
...Tuhan tak suka manusia yang IGNORANT!
so dont be!
yang memegang role expectation tu plak, try to understand. People are different. Dont expect too much on people as if they have the same mind as urs.
and even if you did expect the right thing, time is precious for them to try to build a good character based on yours n other expectations.
So, no pressure. Coz im sure you have experience not being able to fulfill certain someone's expectation as well and how does that make you feel?
'please be more considerate and not to think of ur own shoe je!!'